Intimacy in your relationship goes beyond physical closeness; it’s all about emotional connection, trust, and understanding what your partner wants and needs. When it comes to a fulfilling sexual relationship, it’s important to think about your partner’s pleasure just as much as your own. If your sex life with your partner is going through a slump, here are a few ways to get it back on track.

1. Connect With Your Body

If you’re not in tune with your own body, you’ll have a harder time connecting with someone else. Of course, getting to know what turns you on the most is important, so give yourself the time and space to masturbate. But you can connect with your body in other ways, too. Consider taking up a dance class, yoga, or meditation. These activities will get you in tune with both your mind and body.

2. Have a Big Talk

It’s important that you and your partner communicate openly about what you both want from your sex life. Talking about it means you won’t be guessing what the other person is into. Being vocal is also a part of building intimacy. Create a safe space where both you and your partner can discuss your desires and boundaries. Tell each other what feels good and what doesn’t, making sure you both feel heard and respected. You might even consider taking a partner quiz about what you fantasize about in the bedroom. Then, compare your answers and talk about what you’d like to try.

3. Get Rid of Distractions

Nobody can feel close to someone if their phones are pinging, kids are knocking on the door, or the news is on. Whether you’re in the heat of the moment or you’re having your scheduled sex, make sure there’s nothing to bother you. This goes for giving yourselves enough time, too. If you’re feeling rushed, you’re not immersing yourself in the experience. Dedicate a solid chunk of time to intimacy and make the most of it.

4. Take Your Time

Foreplay is one of the most important parts of sexual pleasure. Engage in extended periods of sensual touching, kissing, and teasing. Take the time to explore your partner’s body and learn what sensations bring them pleasure. Discover erogenous zones while paying attention to their reactions. Foreplay is also a time when you can focus more on your partner than on yourself for a while.

5. Take Getaways

It’s not easy for everyone to do, but getting out of the house for a weekend every once in a while can work wonders for your sexual chemistry. Even if it’s just one town over, try to find the time to stay at a romantic bed and breakfast where you can devote attention to your partner. Planning a trip also builds anticipation and can make sex at home more exciting.

6. Cuddle

Intimacy isn’t just about the sex act. Keeping that skin-to-skin contact is important to build up your physical connection. Use this time to debrief, talking about what you most enjoyed about that sexual experience. These moments of close communication bring you closer together and get you more excited about the next time you’ll have sex.

Are You Struggling to Connect Sexually?

If you and your partner have stopped having sex or aren’t having sex you’re both enthusiastic about, it’s time to make a change. If working on your sex life alone hasn’t improved things, you should consider couples counseling or sex therapy. A therapist can give you intimacy advice that’s unique to your situation, as well as help you communicate better with one another.

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