How to Keep the Flame Burning After 50
Sex shouldn’t disappear with age. Despite what society and pop culture may say, sex doesn’t have to stop at 50. In fact, it can even get better in older age. Like all good things, it takes practice, patience, and time. However, there are still unique concerns that middle-aged and seniors will have regarding sex and relationships. Talking about sex can feel awkward when your sex life seems like an afterthought, but it shouldn’t be. Here are a few tips for keeping your flame burning after 50.
Prioritize Foreplay
When it takes longer for the body to get physically aroused, it’s best to take your time. Look at foreplay not just as the moments before sex but as an integral part of sex itself. Making intentional time for sex can also separate intimacy from the regular stressors in your life. It’s hard to get in the mood when you’re feeling all the effects of your day. One way around this is to schedule sex—by mentally putting it into your daily or weekly calendar, you’re less likely to worry about everything else you have going on.
Consider the Causes of a Lowered Libido
As we age, our libidos tend to wane. While vaginal dryness and erectile dysfunction are a natural part of the aging process, there are ways to address them. There could be underlying medical causes or side effects of medications that are preventing your mind and body from reaching their sexual potential. Your regular medications may need adjusting to account for side effects. Those with dryness could consider vaginal estrogen treatment under the supervision of a doctor. There are many prescriptions to treat erectile dysfunction as well. It’s important to talk about these very normal issues with your doctor instead of feeling ashamed.
Embrace Creativity
Aging means we’re probably not as limber as we used to be. Don’t be afraid to make adjustments to your familiar positions or to try something new that makes you feel more comfortable. Physical limitations shouldn’t also be imaginative limitations—see them instead as an opportunity to discover new sensations and ways of connecting with your partner. Be adventurous!
Enjoy the Emotional Connection
When we expand our definition of what sex is, we’re more likely to have a fulfilling sex life. There may be times when you and your partner can only cuddle and be intimate in other ways—that doesn’t mean your sex life is necessarily lacking. A huge part of this is embracing communication, which is the bedrock of all relationships and deep emotional connections. Don’t be afraid to talk about sex. Let your partner know what works for you, what new desires you have, and how you’re feeling.
Eat, Sleep Well, and Exercise
There’s a reason this advice applies to nearly every issue. A good diet, regular exercise, and healthy sleep patterns can do wonders for your mental and physical health. Even if exercising means walking through the neighborhood, you’re still getting your heart pumping. Research also shows there’s a correlation between a healthy diet that is low in red meats and processed foods and lowered rates of erectile dysfunction.
See a Medical Professional
If you find that nothing is working and you suspect an underlying condition is affecting your sex life, don’t be afraid to talk to a doctor. Exploring medical options might be the best way forward. Your libido and sexual function are also heavily influenced by your mental health. Depression and anxiety are known libido-killers, so taking care of your mental health is crucial.
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